It’s no secret that a first date can be a nerve-wracking experience, even for those who consider themselves experienced זונות. Asking someone out is difficult enough, but when planning and executing the perfect evening, things can become very stressful. Here are five strategies to help you navigate the first date relatively easily.
1. Get To Know Your Date Beforehand
Doing some research before you meet up may seem strange or creepy at first, but it is quite useful in helping you plan an enjoyable evening for both of you. Checking out their social media profiles will give you an idea of what they like and don’t like, which can help select activities or restaurant choices that suit them. Furthermore, by looking through their posts, you may discover common interests that could provide conversation starters on the actual date.
2. Choose An Appropriate Venue
Choosing a venue that suits both of your personalities is important as it sets the tone for the whole evening. Going to the cinema isn’t ideal as it takes away from getting to know each other, and going somewhere too fancy could make one of you feel uncomfortable or put pressure on one of you if the money is tight. A relaxed atmosphere such as a cafe or bar, where conversation is easy and natural, is usually preferable; however, depending on how well you know each other beforehand, this may change slightly – perhaps dinner in a restaurant would be more appropriate than drinks in a bar if you’re already familiar with each other?
3. Don’t be too serious
First dates tend to bring out nervousness in people, which can lead to overly serious conversations; trying to keep things light-hearted will help to keep both parties relaxed and allow for genuine interactions without feeling intimidated by the potential awkwardness of seriousness. Jokes here and there sprinkled throughout the conversation will also help to build chemistry between you while keeping things fun and entertaining, allowing topics to flow naturally without being forced into anything too deep or complex such as politics or religion (unless these were common interests established before the meeting).
4. Avoid the ex-talk
Bringing up exes isn’t going to win you any points during your time together, so try not to mention them unless absolutely necessary – otherwise, it’ll seem like these past relationships are still affecting you, which won’t do you much good if you’re trying to impress your date. It’s also a good idea not to ask questions that directly relate to past romantic relationships, as this could potentially cause some negative feelings in your date; instead, focus on topics unrelated to past partners, such as family, hobbies, work, etc. This will help to keep everyone comfortable throughout the evening, while also giving an insight into each other’s lives without unnecessarily invading personal space.
5. End on a high note
The end of any date tends to stick with people long after they leave because of its significance, so make sure yours leaves a good memory! Have something planned beforehand, whether a walk around town afterward, getting ice cream from the local shop, watching the sunset, etc. This allows you to control how long the goodbye lasts, rather than awkwardly prolonging the hug until one person decides to break it off – plus, being proactive shows a willingness to maintain the connection created during the night itself. Make sure you compliment each other before you leave! Not only will this show appreciation, but the confidence boost will go a long way.
Ultimately, navigating first dates requires patience, understanding & proper preparation; following these five tips should set you up for success!
